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الرد على شبهة الزواج المبكر وزواج الرسول من السيدة عائشة رضي الله عنها
ترجمة الجزء الأول من الرد على شبهة الزواج المبكر أو زواج الرسول
صلى الله عليه وسلم من السيدة عائشة رضي الله عنها ...
قام بالرد : موقع و فريق ( المحدث ) ... http://www.muhaddith.org
الرد الصوتي المرئي بالغة الإنجليزية ( نرجو نشره ) :
ترجمة الرد كتابيا إلى اللغة العربية : قام به : ( أخوكم مسلم ) :
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إن العديد من الشبهات قد أثيرت حديثا حول الزواج المبكر في الإسلام ، تلك الشبهات والهجمات التي تعمدت إهمال وإخفاء الحقائق حول المجتمع قبل الحديث ، والإسلام .
أولا : سن الرشد تاريخيا :
أحد هذه الشبهات هو قولهم : " إن سن الرشد في الإسلام كان - تاريخيا - منخفضا نسبيا "
أولا وقبل كل شيء ، يجب أن نعلم أن الولادة المبكرة كانت من ضروريات استمرار بقاء الجنس البشري ، فدورة أو فترة حياة الفرد كانت تترواح بين 20 إلى 30 سنة فقط ,[1] [2] [3] [4] [5] [6] [7] [8] [9] ، بسبب معدلات الوفايات المرتفعة [10] [11] [12] ، فحتى إلى القرن الثامن عشر ، كل زوجة منجبة كانت تحتاج لإنجاب ما لا يقل عن 8 أطفال ، فقط لضمان استمرار بقاء الجنس البشري [13] [14] [15] [16] [17] [18] [19] [20] ..
كما أن هناك أيضا التجاذب الجنسي الذي يوافق ويرافق سن البلوغ [21] [22] ، والذي - جينيا - يتراوح ما بين سن 7 سنوات إلى 13 سنة في النساء [23] [24] [25] [26] [27] [28] [29] [30] و لذلك ، فسواء من أحد يعتبر هذه الغريزة هي نتيجة للتطور ، أو تدبيرا إلهيا ، فالولادة المبكرة بعد سن البلوغ تمثل أمرا طبيعيا ومقبولا في التاريخ ..
وطبقا لمجلة ( علم النفس والحالة الجنسية للإنسان ) ( Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality ) ، فإن " سن الرشد على مر التاريخ متزامن مع سن البلوغ " مع " أدنى حد له عند سن السابعة "[31] .
كما تقر هذه المجلة و ( موسوعة بريتانيكا ) ( Encyclopedia Britannica ) أن قوانين سن الرشد أو القبول والموافقة قد مُرّرت من القانون الروماني ليتلقاها القانون الكنسي ثم القانون الإنجليزي العام [32] [33] الذي ينص على أن " سن الرشد أو القبول يكون بين سن السابعة وسن البلوغ ، لكن دون إتمام للزواج " حتى سن البلوغ ، دون حاجة إلى موافقة أبوية بعد سن الثانية عشرة [34] ، كما صدقت على ذلك المحكمة الأميريكية العليا عام 1877 [35] [36] .
وحتى اليوم ، فإن ست ولايات إضافة إلى مقاطعة كولومبيا تقر بهذا القانون العام للزواج [37] [38] [39] [40] [41] [42] ، ومثل هذه الزيجات قد اعتُرف بها دستوريا في كل الولايات الخمسين [43] .
إذا فالزواج المبكر حتى في سن السابعة - والذي كان يسمى أو يعتبر بـ " سن العقل " [44] [45] - أو بعد البلوغ مباشرة كان المعيار القائم لدى الأغلبية الغالبة من المجتمع البشري حتى القرن التاسع عشر [46] [47] [48] [49] [50] .
لكن ، وقبل حوالي 1300 عام ، كان الحد الأدنى في الإسلام - سن التاسعة - بفارق سنتين من العمر كِبَرا ، كما أن الإسلام أيضا ضمن ضمن حماية ضرورة الموافقة الأبوية حتى بعد سن الثانية عشرة [51] .
ولا يقولن قائل إن تأخر سن البلوغ في المدن الصناعية ما بين سنة 1700 و 1850 يفند معيار الزواج المبكر الذي أثبتناه ، لأن ذلك إنما كان نتيجة غير طبيعة لسوء الصرف الصحي [52] [53] [54] ، وعدم ممارسة الرياضة ، والانتشار الواسع للحبوب الغذائية الرخيصة غير المفيدة [55] [56] [57] .
فالخلاصة إذا أن الحد الأدنى لسن الرشد أو القبول في الإسلام أعلى بسنتين من القوانين الأخرى ، مع ضمانه لحماية ضرورة الموافقة الأبوية بعد سن الثاتية عشرة ..
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[1] James Trefil, "Can We Live Forever?" 101 Things You Don't Know About Science and No One Else Does Either (1996)
Bronze Age: 18
[2] Average Life Expectancy at Birth
“The average life expectancy in Classical Greece was 28...The average life expectancy in Classical Rome was 28”
[3] “Americans and their health - A little good news”, WIN Wyoming, November 2004
“During the Roman Empire, the average life expectancy of humans was about 22-25 years.”
[4] "old age" Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“In ancient Rome and medieval Europe the average life span is estimated to have been between 20 and 30 years.”
[5] Time traveller's guide to Medieval Britain
“The Middle Ages are a dangerous time... Average life expectancy is only 30.”
[6] A millennium of health improvement
“The average life expectancy for a male child born in the UK between 1276 and 1300 was 31.3 years.”
[7] “Commentary: The pitfalls of policy history. Writing the past to change the present”, S Ryan Johansson, Cambridge Groups for the History of Population and Social Structure, Cambridge University
"For most of human history mortality was high and life expectancy low (between 20 and 30 years at birth)...”
[8] This Wonderful Lengthening of Lifespan, Bruce J. Klein, Immortality Institute, 2003
“In 1796, life expectancy hovered around 24 years.”
[9] It's Getting Better All the Time: 100 Greatest Trends of the Last 100 Years By Stephen Moore, Julian Lincoln Simon
“Throughout most of human history, death came at an early age--25 to 30 years was a typical lifespan. The essential element of the human condition was a day-to-say struggle to fend off death...Increasing life expectancy at birth from the lower 20s to the high 20s around 1750 took thousands of years. Over the next two centuries, life expectancy in the richest countries suddenly accelerated and tripled. From the mid-18th century to today, life spans in the advanced countries jumped from less than 30 years to about 75 years.”
[10] “The End of Life: Medical Considerations - Causes Of Death”
“In the 1800s and early 1900s, infectious (communicable) diseases such as influenza, tuberculosis, and diphtheria were the leading causes of death.”
[11] “Commentary: The pitfalls of policy history. Writing the past to change the present”, S Ryan Johansson, Cambridge Groups for the History of Population and Social Structure, Cambridge University
"...most people were too poor, and therefore too poorly nourished, to resist the relentless onslaughts of disease, particularly infectious disease. In 18th century Western Europe, agricultural development increased the food supply and let ordinary people buy more and better food. Better nutrition increased their resistance to infectious disease, and reduced death rates, all without the assistance of medical care.”
[12] “Health: A millennium of health improvement”, December 27, 1998, BBC News
“Childbirth was less sanitary, and put the mother at a high risk of fatal infection. Complications in the birth were more frequently fatal too, as, although midwives existed, they had little medical knowledge and their hygiene was poor.”
[13] "Saga Background: Women", Theban Tribunal Sourcebook
“...Early marriage and procreation of children was the norm in Byzantium...One reason for the promotion of teenage marriage was the emphasis on the virginity of the bride. Another, unstated reason may have been the desire to make the most of the childbearing years; because of the high rate of infant mortality, a woman had to bear many children to insure the survival of a few. Furthermore, since many women died young (if they survived infancy, they had an average life expectancy of about thirty-five years), it behooved them to marry and begin producing children as soon as physically possible.”
[14] THE DEMOGRAPHIC TRANSITION, Keith Montgomery, Department of Geography and Geology, University of Wisconsin Marathon County
"STAGE ONE is associated with pre Modern times, and is characterized by a balance between birth rates and death rates...The high rate of birth (even higher if one were to adjust it for women of childbearing age) could be due any or all of the factors that are associated with high fertility even today in many less developed countries. With a high death rate among children, there would be little incentive in rural societies to control fertility except in the most unbearable of circumstances...STAGE TWO sees a rise in population caused by a decline in the death rate while the birth rate remains high, or perhaps even rises slightly. The decline in the death rate in Europe began in the late 18th.C. in northwestern Europe and spread over the next 100 years to the south end east."
[15] Princeton/Stanford Working Papers in Classics Population and demography Version 1.0 April 2006 Walter Scheidel Stanford University
“High mortality logically implies high fertility. For instance, a mean life expectancy at birth of 25 years compels – on average – every woman surviving to menopause to give birth to approximately five children to maintain existing population size. The corresponding rate was higher still for married women: one reconstruction posits a lifetime mean of 8.4 births for continuously married women in Roman Egypt (Frier 2000: 801).“
[16] Crisis In The Family: Connecticut And The Nation, Lou Ratté, Yale-New Haven Teachers Institute
“In concrete terms, historians observe, the American woman of 1800 bore, on the average, seven or eight children; the American woman of 1900 bore three or four...You can start with an initial population of 100. Half of them are women. Those fifty women have to produce 200 children in twenty years. If all the women produced an equal number of children, and all the children lived, the number of children necessary would be four. However, ten percent of the women don’t marry. Eliminate five women. Ten percent of the women who do marry prove to be infertile. Eliminate another five women. Finally, ten percent of the women lose their husbands before they can produce children. Eliminate another ten percent. You are left with thirty-five women. These women could produce 200 children if each bore 5.7, or between five and six children each. However, ten percent of the children, or twenty, die as infants, and another ten percent do not live into adulthood to produce children of their own. Add another twenty. You now have 240 births necessary. Remember, though, that of the 200 children, half of which will be female, that you want, thirty percent will not be able to do their share of reproducing. You need an additional sixty children to ensure that the population can continue to double. So, you need 300 children. Divide that number by the available thirty-five women. Each woman must bear between eight and nine children...Between seven and eight is the figure that demographic historians estimate was the average for number of children in the American family in 1800”
[17] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
"In the 17th century, the majority of people worked as farmers. In this profession, it was beneficial to have as many people helping as possible in order to maximize profit. Thus, the average number of children per household was 8.3 compared to today’s 1.3 children, according to 'Colonial America to 1763'."
[18] The Real Population Problem: Too Few Working, Too Many Retired, William Poole and David C. Wheelock, The Regional Economist, April 2005
“For centuries, the world’s population grew slowly, as high rates of mortality largely offset high birth rates.”
[19] The Peopling of America, Digital History
“Child Mortality in New England: 180-200 of every l,000 died first year, 35-40 percent failed to reach adulthood”
[20] Unit 5: Human Population Dynamics // Section 2: Mathematics of Population Growth
“Until the mid-19th century birth rates were only slightly higher than death rates, so the human population grew very slowly. The industrial era changed many factors that affected birth and death rates, and in doing so, it triggered a dramatic expansion of the world's population”
[21] “Molecular investigations into complex behavior: Lessons from sexual orientation studies,” Human Biology, Apr 1998 by Pattatucci, Angela M
"Remarkably, the mean age of phenotypic expression of sexual orientation, assessed in terms of the age of the first romantic/sexual attraction to another person, was constant at approximately 10 years"
[22] Puberty May Start at 6 As Hormones Surge, By HARA ESTROFF MARANO, July 1, 1997
“...the adrenal sex steroids do what sex hormones typically do, influence behavior as well as the body...Using data from three separate studies, they said that sexual attraction first manifested itself in the fourth grade, from the ages of 9 to 10...In Dr. Herdt's study, the mean age of first-recalled sexual attraction was 9.6 for men, 10.1 for women. In the cancer institute's studies, the mean age of first sexual attraction was 10 to 10.5...Dr. Herdt recalled 'being struck by the significant number of teens in our study who made remarks about attractions' occurring at 9 or 10. 'I thought that was strange, certainly inconsistent with the literature,' Dr. Herdt said. 'But many of the teens specifically placed their experiences in the fourth grade'.”
[23] ”New research shows how evolution explains age of puberty”, From the University of Southampton
“They found that Paleolithic girls arrived at menarche - the first occurrence of menstruation - between seven and 13 years. This is a similar age to modern girls, which suggests that this is the evolutionarily determined age of puberty in girls...Disease and poor nutrition became more common as humans settled, causing puberty to be delayed. Modern hygiene, nutrition and medicine have allowed the age of menarche to fall to its original range.“
[24] When Little Girls Become Women: Early Onset of Puberty in Girls
“There are new guidelines for pediatricians that are guaranteed to shock: girls who start to develop breasts and pubic hair at age six or seven are not necessarily "abnormal" (Kaplowitz, et al., 1999). In fact, by their ninth birthday, 48% of African American girls and 15% of white girls are showing clear signs of puberty.”
[25] "reproductive system disease." Encyclopedia Britannica. 2008
“ ’Abnormally early’ has traditionally been defined as younger than 9 years in boys and younger than 8 years in girls, though studies undertaken since the 1990s indicate that the normal onset of puberty may be occurring at a younger age in girls in developed countries and that therefore the age of precocious puberty for girls may actually be as low as 6 or 7.”
[26] Early Puberty: What Is Normal and When Is Treatment Indicated?
“Girls and boys who enter puberty before 8 and 9 years of age, respectively (corresponding to about -3 SDS), are arbitrarily considered to need referral for endocrine investigation. A recent report from the Lawson Wilkins Pediatric Endocrine Society suggested that the limit for investigation of girls and boys should be lowered to 7 and 8 years, respectively. For African-American girls, 6 years is the suggested age.”
[27] Nutritional Information, Precocious puberty
“Precocious puberty, or early sexual development, is happening everywhere. It’s estimated that one out of six girls aged eight may be entering puberty. The age at which puberty begins has been steadily declining. Today, the average age of first menstruation is under 12 years. Reports of early puberty have come from many countries including Canada, the US, Australia, Britain, the European Union, Asia, and the Caribbean. A groundbreaking US study on 17,000 girls found that 27 percent of African-American and almost seven percent of Caucasian girls had the onset of secondary sexual characteristics, i.e., either breast development or pubic hair development, by the age of seven. By the time the girls turned eight-years-old, 15 percent of Caucasian girls and 50 percent of Afro-American girls were starting puberty. Even more startling was the finding that one percent of Caucasian and three percent of African-American girls showed these characteristics by the age of three.”
[28] Changing times: The evolution of puberty", Gluckman & Hanson, Molecular and Cellular Endocrinology Volumes 254-255, 25 July 2006, Pages 26-31
“An evolutionary and life history perspective is used to consider the evolution of puberty. The age of menarche would have evolved by the Neolithic to be matched to social maturity. It is suggested that in developed countries menarche is now returning to a similar age as in the Neolithic...”
[29] Puberty, Encyclopedia of Psychology
Although most children begin puberty between the ages of 10 and 12, it can start at any age from 8 to 16. The most obvious determining factor is gender; on average, puberty arrives earlier for girls than boys.
[30] Puberty May Start at 6 As Hormones Surge, By HARA ESTROFF MARANO, July 1, 1997
“In fact, two University of Chicago researchers, Dr. Martha K. McClintock, a biopsychologist, and Dr. Gilbert Herdt, an anthropologist, say that puberty may actually begin around the age of 6.”
[31] “Age of Consent A Historical Overview” Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality, Volume: 16 Issue: 2/3, 5/3/2005
“Age of Consent throughout history has usually coincided with the age of puberty although at sometimes it has been as early as seven. Early on age of consent was a familial or tribal matter and only became a legal one in the Greco-Roman period. The Roman tradition served as the base for Christian Europe as well as the Christian Church itself which generally, essentially based upon biological development, set it at 12 or 14 but continued to set the absolute minimum at seven. In the past century there has been a tendency to raise the age of consent but the reasons for the change have not always been clear and the issue has been further complicated by the reluctance of many contemporary historians to recognize what the actual age of consent in the past has been. This failure has distorted the importance of biology on age of consent in the past.”
[32] “Age of Consent A Historical Overview” Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality, Volume: 16 Issue: 2/3, 5/3/2005
“... The Roman tradition served as the base for Christian Europe as well as the Christian Church itself which generally, essentially based upon biological development, set it at 12 or 14 but continued to set the absolute minimum at seven.”
[33] “sexual behaviour, human” Encyclopedia Britannica 2008
“when secular law replaced religious law, there was rather little change in content...in England and the United States there was no such rift with the past. In the latter country, as each new state joined the union, its sex laws simply duplicated, to a great extent, those of pre-existing states;”
[34] “family law” Encyclopedia Britannica 2008
“Historically, the attitude of the English common law was that a person under seven years of age lacked the mental ability to consent to marriage, and that between seven years and puberty there could be consent but not consummation. At common law, therefore, the marriage of a person between the ages of seven and 12 or 14 was “inchoate” and would become “choate” on reaching puberty, if no objection was raised.”
[35] MEISTER V. MOORE, 96 U. S. 76 (1877)
“The defense was:...That that evidence utterly failed to establish a valid marriage at common law. The Revised Statutes of Michigan upon the subject of the solemnization of marriages, adopted in the year 1838 and in force at the time of the alleged marriage, enact as follows:...
'SEC. 6. Marriages may be solemnized by any justice of the peace in the county in which he is chosen, and they may be solemnized throughout the state by any minister of the gospel who has been ordained according to the usages of his denomination and who resides within this state and continues to preach the gospel.'
'SEC. 8. In the solemnization of marriage, no particular form shall be required except that the parties shall solemnly declare, in the presence of the magistrate or minister and the attending witnesses, that they take each other as husband and wife. In every case there shall be at least two witnesses, besides the minister or magistrate, present at the ceremony.' "
[36] MARRIAGE OF MINORS.; THE NEW LAW FIXING THE AGE OF CONSENT--CRIMINAL LIABILITY OF CLERGYMEN AND MAGISTRATES, New York Times, July 14, 1887
“At common law, a marriage contracted under the age of consent was not regarded as void, but only as an imperfect marriage, valid until voided by the parties after their arrival at the age of consent...The common law rule of 14 in males and 12 in females was derived from the civil law, also substantially from the canon...In the revision of the statutes, the age of consent was fixed at 17 for males and 14 for females, but so deep rooted had the common law become that the section was repealed by chapter 320 of the laws of 1830, the Legislature of that year having arrived at the conclusion that owing to the delicate nature of the marital relation and the complications growing out of it, the common law rule had better be allowed to stand.”
[37] "Common Law Marriages", New York Divorce and Family Law
“Infancy was also an impediment to marriage. Children below the age of seven were incapable of marrying. After the age of seven they might marry, but the marriage was voidable until they were able to consummate the marriage, which the law presumed to be at age fourteen for boys and twelve for girls. Beyond those ages the marriages were valid, even though the parties were under the age of twenty-one and did not have their parents' consent. Later statutes imposed the requirement of parents' consent.”
[38] DC Almanac, Marriage
"MICHAEL WASSERMAN, DC HISTORY NET - Based on my review of the statute applicable between 1901 and 1925...Sections 1283 and 1284 specify which marriages are absolutely void or merely voidable after judicial decree....The fourth paragraph of section 1284 (added in 1902) specifically declares the age of consent to marriage to be 16 for males and 14 for females, and makes marriages in which one party is under age voidable at the suit of the party."
[39] "Issuance of marriage license to persons under 18", Joslyn Wilson, Assistant Attorney General
“At common law, a male was deemed competent to contract a valid marriage at 14 years of age; for females the age of consent was 12 years. Green v. Green, supra; 55 C.J.S. Marriage s. 11. Any marriage, however, occurring between the age of 7 years and the age of consent was merely voidable, but a marriage where one or both of the parties were under the age of 7 years was void and without legal significance. 55 C.J.S. Marriage s. 11. A marriage by one above the age of consent but below the age of contract generally is fully valid. 55 C.J.S. Marriage s. 11 at p. 823; also see Hunt v. Hunt, 161 So. 119, 122 (Miss. 1935). Although not required at common law, the state may require the consent of the parents or guardian as a preliminary to the marriage of minors. 55 C.J.S. Marriage s. 23.”
[40] "Silent Partners", Legal Assistance for Military Personnel
“Voidable marriages are those where insufficient age, fraud, duress, sham ceremony, physical disability (disease or incurable impotence), or mental disability taint what appears to be an otherwise valid marriage. If a marriage is voidable, then it must be "avoided" (or challenged in court) by the one whose disability causes the problem at some point in time before the listing of the disability. Otherwise, avoidable marriage may "cure" into a valid marriage...A different kind of common law marriage is represented by the situation where a valid marriage is formed from an invalid marriage after the impediment is lifted. For example, a party might be underage at the time of the marriage. Continued cohabitation as husband and wife after the underage party attains majority, however, results in the marriage ripening into validity where this form of common law marriage is recognized.”
[41] “re In The Marriage of J.M.H. and Rouse”, COLORADO COURT OF APPEALS, Judge James Hartmann, June 15, 2006
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Colorado Court of Appeals -- June 15, 2006
AND/OR
“re In The Marriage of J.M.H. and Rouse”, COLORADO COURT OF APPEALS, Judge James Hartmann, June 15, 2006
"...The Uniform Marriage Act (UMA)...provides that “[n]othing in this section shall be deemed to repeal or render invalid any otherwise valid common law marriage between one man and one woman." Section 142104(3),C.R.S. 2005...The jurisdictions that recognized common law marriage are Alabama, Colorado, District of Columbia, Idaho*, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas**, and Utah...Similarly, the United States Supreme Court has held that common law marriages are valid, notwithstanding statutes that require ceremonial marriages to be solemnized by a minister or a magistrate, if no specific provision to the contrary exists... Common law, not the UMA, governs the existence of a common law marriage...Regarding the age of consent for common law marriage specifically, courts in other jurisdictions have uniformly declared that the common law age of consent applies to common law marriages, even when statutes otherwise require parental or judicial approval for persons under a specified age, unless those statutes expressly modify or abrogate the common law...The common law marriage of a person is valid, regardless of whether the person has reached the age of competency as established by statute, if the person is competent under the common law...Under English common law, children below the age of seven were incapable of marrying. After that age they could marry, but the marriage was voidable until they became able to consummate it... which the law presumed to be at age fourteen for males and twelve for females...Accordingly, several jurisdictions have adopted those ages as the common law ages of consent for marriage "
[*] only before 1997
[**] minimum 13
[42] Marriage Laws of the Fifty States, District of Columbia and Puerto Rico, Cornell Law School
Alabama, Iowa, Montana, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, Washington DC
[43] "Common Law Marriage", National Conference of State Legislatures
"The United States Constitution requires every state to accord ‘Full Faith and Credit’ to the laws of its sister states. Thus, a common-law marriage that is validly contracted in a state where such marriages are legal will be valid even in states where such marriages cannot be contracted and may be contrary to public policy."
[44] ”Age of reason (canon law)”, Amazines
The age of reason, also called the age of discretion, is the age at which children become capable of moral responsibility. On completion of the seventh year a minor is presumed to have the use of reason (canon 97 §2 of the Code of Canon Law), but mental retardation or insanity could prevent some individuals from ever reaching it. Children under the age of reason and the mentally handicapped are sometimes called "innocents" because of their inability to commit sins even if their actions are objectively sinful, they lack capacity for subjective guilt.
While in the Eastern Churches Confirmation (also known as Chrismation) and Eucharist are bestowed on the infant who has just been baptized, in Latin Rite Catholicism, Confirmation (except in danger of death) may be lawfully conferred only on a person who has the use of reason (canon 889 §2), and Holy Communion may be administered to children only if "they have sufficient knowledge and (are) accurately prepared, so that according to their capacity they understand what the mystery of Christ means, and are able to receive the Body of the Lord with faith and devotion.”
[45] CHAPTER IV : MATRIMONIAL CONSENT, Code of Canon Law
“Can. 1095 The following are incapable of contracting marriage:
1° those who lack sufficient use of reason;
Can. 1096 §1 For matrimonial consent to exist, it is necessary that the contracting parties be at least not ignorant of the fact that marriage is a permanent partnership between a man and a woman, ordered to the procreation of children through some form of sexual cooperation.
§2 This ignorance is not presumed after puberty.
Can. 1107 Even if a marriage has been entered into invalidly by reason of an impediment or defect of form, the consent given is presumed to persist until its withdrawal has been established.”
[46] "Agnes-Anna of France,wife of Alexius II and Andronicus I of the Comneni Dynasty", An Online Encyclopedia of Roman Emperors, Lynda Garland, Andrew Stone
“Agnes was only eight on her arrival at Constantinople... Agnes was born... in 1172... The ceremonies took place in the palace on 2 March 1180...Child brides, whether Byzantines or foreign princesses, were the norm rather than the exception, especially from the late twelfth century. Irene Ducaena, wife of Alexius I Comnenus, was twelve at her marriage, and empress before she was fifteen; the Byzantine princess Theodora, Manuel's niece, was in her thirteenth year when she married Baldwin III of Jerusalem; and Margaret-Maria of Hungary married Isaac II Angelus at the age of nine. Agnes's age, then, was not unusual, especially as it was customary for young engaged couples in Constantinople to be brought up together in the house of the socially superior partner.”
[47] "Saga Background: Women", Theban Tribunal Sourcebook
“For most girls in Byzantium, childhood came to an abrupt end with the onset of puberty, which was usually soon followed by betrothal and marriage. Early marriage and procreation of children was the norm in Byzantium...”
[48] "History of Marriage in Western Civilization", Magnus Hirshfeld Archive for Sexology
“Marriage in Medieval Europe...On the average, however, males married in their mid-twenties, and females in their early teens (i.e., soon after their first menstruation).”
[49] "History of Marriage in Western Civilization", Magnus Hirshfeld Archive for Sexology
“Marriage in Ancient Greece and Rome...As Demosthenes, the orator, explained it: 'We ...wives to bear us lawful offspring'...Marriage in Ancient Israel...The main purpose of marriage was procreation and the perpetuation of a man's name...Marriage in Medieval Europe...On the average, however, males married in their mid-twenties, and females in their early teens (i.e., soon after their first menstruation).
[50] “The Household and the Making of History: a Subversive View of the Western Past”, Hartman, Mary S., Rutgers University, Cambridge University Press, 2004
"This book argues that a unique late marriage pattern, discovered in the 1960s but originating in the Middle Ages, explains the continuing puzzle of why western Europe was the site of changes that...when the peasants in northwestern Europe began to marry their daughters almost as late as their sons. The appearance of this late marriage system, with its unstable nuclear household form"
[51] “Shari'ah”, Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“A legal capacity to transact belongs to any person “of prudent judgment” (rashid), a quality that is normally deemed to arrive with physical maturity or puberty. There is an irrebuttable presumption of law (1) that boys below the age of 12 and girls below the age of 9 have not attained puberty, and (2) that puberty has been attained by the age of 15 for both sexes. Persons who are not rashid, on account of minority, mental deficiency, simplicity, or prodigality, are placed under interdiction: their affairs are managed by a guardian and they cannot transact effectively without the guardian's consent.”
[52] “Evolution, development and timing of puberty.” Hanson, Gluckman Trends in Endocrinology & ****bolism, Volume 17, Issue 1, January 2006, Pages 7-12
“...there is ample evidence of delayed puberty being associated with poorer childhood nutrition...”
[53] ”New research shows how evolution explains age of puberty”, From the University of Southampton
“Disease and poor nutrition became more common as humans settled, causing puberty to be delayed. Modern hygiene, nutrition and medicine have allowed the age of menarche to fall to its original range.“
[54] International Variability of Ages at Menarche and Menopause: Patterns and Main Determinants, Human Biology 73.2 (2001) 271-290
“Vegetable calorie consumption per person and per day has a small, but significant, influence on age at menarche, supporting the idea that good [End Page 282] nutritional conditions favor early menarche (Frisch 1982, 1985; Warren 1983; Haq 1984)....In fact, age at menarche seems to be closely related to extrinsic factors such as living conditions and, especially, the energy balance allocated to individuals.”
[55] Evolutionary Aspects of Nutrition and Health, Book Review
“...insulin resistance was once advantageous for humans, who were eating a high-protein, low-carbohydrate diet, but once the diet shifted to a highly refined carbohydrate diet, hyperinsulinemia was no longer beneficial and it now causes diseases such as NIDDM, coronary heart disease, and hypertension. They also point out that beyond the Agricultural Revolution and its radical change to the human diet, we must also consider the profound effects of the Industrial Revolution and the Post-Industrial diet with the proliferation of highly refined carbohydrates in the last centuries.”
[56] Disease during the Industrial Revolution
“Disease was a constant threat during the Industrial Revolution. Changes in the way that people lived and the conditions in which they worked led to disease being able to spread much more rapidly, and new forms of disease emerged that were as deadly as any killer that had been before.
Towns grew very quickly as factories led to migrations from the countryside and immigration from different parts of Europe and the empire. As the demand for housing increased so rapidly the quality of homes constructed was low. Housing for the worker was cramped in, built quickly and built with little regard for hygiene. In many cities the result was that large slums appeared.
These slums were areas where houses were small, roads narrow and services such as rubbish collection, sewage works and basic washing facilities nonexistent. In this type of climate bacteria grow quickly, the water supply is likely to become infected and weaker people are likely to fall ill much more rapidly.
Water was often the problem. Factories would dump waste into streams and rivers. The same streams and rivers were used to supply homes with water for washing and *****ng. Soon people’s health was endangered. In many slums the same water supply was infected with human sewage as toilet facilities were often inadequate and sometimes consisted of a toilet block that was emptied irregularly: meaning that when it rained, the waste may overflow into the gutter and therefore into the rivers and streams.
The result of this is the spread of disease.
One of the main killers of the industrial age was Cholera. This deadly disease was water borne and spread through filthy cities with ease, killing thousands. Typhoid also took a hold in some areas and aain made great use of the poor sewage provisions to take a hold of many areas.
Diseases such as Cholera and Typhoid are now fairly easily prevented. Basic cleanliness, underground sewage pipes and regularly cleaned and controlled water supplies doing most of the work to prevent any re-occurrence of this form of disease.”
[57] Medieval diets 'far more healthy', BBC News
Their low-fat, vegetable-rich diet - washed down by weak ale - was far better for the heart than today's starchy, processed foods, one GP says.
And while they consumed more they burnt off calories in a workout of 12 hours' labour, Dr Roger Henderson concludes.
But the Shropshire GP accepts that life for even prosperous peasants was tough.
But after examining the available records, Dr Henderson suggests that medieval meals were perhaps even better than the much touted "Mediterranean" diet enjoyed by the Romans.
While this would have involved fish, fruit, whole grains and olive oil - as well as red wine - the rich often overindulged, while the poor may not always have been able to obtain them.
The average medieval peasant however would have eaten nearly two loaves of bread each day, and 8oz of meat or fish, the size of an average steak.
This would have been accompanied by liberal quantities of vegetables, including beans, turnips and parsnips, and washed down by three pints of ale.
Crucially, there was little refined sugar in their food, while modern eating habits are dominated by biscuits, cake and sweets.
"If you put this together with the incre ![dib الرد شبهة الزواج المبكر وزواج](images/smilies/dlb.gif) le work load, medieval man was at much less risk of coronary heart disease and diabetes than we are today," said Dr Henderson
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أما والله ما جعل الله ما جعل الله لرجل من قلبين في جوفه ، ولكنك يا قلبُ تفتأ تجعل لي
من كل معنى من معاني الحزن في هذا الوجود قلباً ينبض به ، حتى لو قد قيل
ما مثلك في القلوب ، لقلتَ: "قلب سوريّة" ..
سورية ... آه يا سورية !
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ثانيا : النضج النفسي تاريخيا :
ثانية دعاواهم قولهم : (( إن الإسلام سمح بالزواج عند سن البلوغ في العصر ما قبل الحديث مما سبب للبنت الضرر النفسي لأنه في سن البلوغ تكون البنت صغيرة جدا على أن توافق موافقة مسئولة ))
والحقيقة أنه وحتى القرن الثامن عشر فإن مجرد وصول الطفل إلى سن البلوغ كان يعتبر بالغا بكل ما تحمل الكلمة من معاني النضج والسلوك والمسئولية كما جاء في مجلة ( التاريخ الاجتماعي Journal of Social History ) ، و ( قاموس أصول الكلامOnline Etymology Dictionary ) و ( مجلة العائلة والزواج Journal of Marriage and the Family ) والعديد من المراجع الأكاديمية [58] [59] [60] [61] [62] [63] .
لقد واجه الأطفال يوميا تحديات الصراع على البقاء جسديا واقتصاديا [64] [65] [66] [67] [68] ، وبينما سبّب هذا النوع من ( الضغط والإجهاد البيئي ) بلوغ مرحلة البلوغ لديهم في سن مبكرة [69] [70] [71] ، فإنه أيضا قد عجّل من النضج النفسي لديهم [72] [73] [74] [75] [76] ، وقد ساعد هذا النضج في تحملهم مسئولية الزواج المبكر والحمل أيضا .
وفي الحقيقة إن هذه المسئوليات كان يثمنها ويقدرها المجتمع ، بما في ذلك أعظم الآباء المؤسسين للولايات المتحدة الأميريكية [77] : ( بنيامين فرانكلين ) [78]
ولم يبدأ النضج النفسي في التأخر إلا من منتصف القرن الثامن عشر الصناعي [79] وهذا بسبب الأعراض الجانبية التي سببت تأخر النضج مثل : زيادة وسائل الراحة في الحياة ، وانعدام التأثير والتوجيه الأبوي [80] [81] [82] ، و " بقاء الأطفال أطفالا لمدة أطول لتكميل تعليمهم "[83] [84] [85] [86] .
لذا ، فإن من الحمق أن نطالب بأنه " كان ينبغي تأخير سن الزواج في العصر قبل الحديث تجنبا للضرر النفسي " لأن ذلك كان من شأنه أن يذهب بالجنس البشري إلى حد الانقراض لأسباب لا تظهر إلا لغير الناضجين من المراهقين اليوم .
وبما أن الرشد والنضج النفسي كانا يتحققان لدى سن البلوغ ، فإن من الحمق أيضا والسذاجة الافتراء على الزواج المبكر في التاريخ ووصفه بأنه : اعتداء على الأطفال [87] أو استغلالهم جنسيا [88] [89] [90] .
فالنتيجة إذا أن الزواج والإنجاب المبكر كانت ملاءمة نفسية كما كانت قيمة ومنفعة مجتمعية .
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[58] "Saga Background: Women", Theban Tribunal Sourcebook
“For most girls in Byzantium, childhood came to an abrupt end with the onset of puberty, which was usually soon followed by betrothal and marriage. Early marriage and procreation of children was the norm in Byzantium...”
[59] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
"In the 17th century...children rapidly evolved into adulthood. In the words of the historian John Demos, 'the seventeenth century had no real word for the period of life between puberty and full manhood.' In fact, as noted in 'Colonial America', well bred children were supposed to both behave and look like small adults."
[60] "Apprentices as Adolescents in Sixteenth Century Bristol", Anne Yarbrough, Journal of Social History, Vol. 13, No. 1 (Autumn, 1979), pp. 67-81
“Since Erikson's formulation of the nature of adolescence, it has most frequently been argued that adolescence only fully emerged in the 19th century.”
[61] “puberty” [Johnson], 1382, from O.Fr. puberté, from L. pubertatem (nom. pubertas), Online Etymology Dictionary
"puberty: 'the time of life in which the two sexes begin first to be acquainted' [Johnson], 1382, from O.Fr. puberté, from L. pubertatem (nom. pubertas) 'age of maturity, manhood,' from pubes (gen. pubertis) 'adult, full-grown, manly.' "
[62] "Adolescense in Historical Perspective", Demos & Demos, Journal of Marriage and the Family, Vol. 31, No. 4 (Nov., 1969), pp. 632-638
“The "discovery" of adolescence can be related to certain broad changes in American life--above all, to changes in the structure of the family as part of the new urban and industrial order...
The idea of adolescence is today one of our most widely held and deeply imbedded assumptions about the process of human development. Indeed must of us treat it not as an idea but as a fact...
Yet all of this has a relatively short history. The concept of adolescence, as generally understood and applied, did not exist before the last two decades of the nineteenth century. Once could almost call it an invention of that period...
We shall limit our attention to developments in the United States, since adolescence was on the whole an American discovery.
We shall begin with a sketch of some common ideas about childhood and "youth" during the period 1800-1875, as revealed in two kinds of sources: (1) a rapidly developing literature of child-rearing advice, and (2) a large body of books and pamphlets directed to the young people of the country and bearing especially on their "moral problems." Then we shall summarize the activites of the "child-study movement (beginning in about 1890)...
And finally we shall propose a hypothesis for drawing together these various types of material and above all for explaining the relationship between the idea of adolescence and the social phenomena to which it was a response. It is here that questions of family life will come most fully into view, since adolescence was, we believe, profoundly related to certain fundamental changes affecting the internal structure of many American homes.”
[63] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
"In the 17th century...children rapidly evolved into adulthood. In the words of the historian John Demos, 'the seventeenth century had no real word for the period of life between puberty and full manhood.' In fact, as noted in 'Colonial America', well bred children were supposed to both behave and look like small adults."
[64] It's Getting Better All the Time: 100 Greatest Trends of the Last 100 Years By Stephen Moore, Julian Lincoln Simon
“The essential element of the human condition was a day-to-say struggle to fend off death”
[65] “sexual behaviour, human” Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“The old family pattern was inexorably disrupted by the rise of the industrial state. Children were no longer kept at home to share in the work and be economic assets but left for school or for nonfamily employment...”
[66] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
"The economic structure of the colonial times forced children to start work early."
[67] Does the American Family Have a History? Family Images and Realities, Digital History
“Families in Colonial America...children were likely to lose at least one parent by the time they married”
[68] Does the American Family Have a History? Family Images and Realities, Digital History
“Families in Colonial America...Many children left their parents homes before puberty to work as servants or apprentices in other households”
[69] “Early Age at Menarche and Allostatic Load: Data from the Third National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey”, Allsworth, Weitzen, Boardman, Annuals of Epidemiology, Volume 15, Issue 6, Pages 438-444 (June 2005)
“Although the overall allostatic load scores were low when compared with older adults, the mean allostatic load score was higher among those with menarche at ages 10 or younger compared with those with later ages at menarche (1.99 vs. 1.33). After adjusting for age, race/ethnicity, level of education, household poverty income ratio, smoking, and depression history, women with high allostatic load scores had more than 2 times the odds as those with low scores of experiencing menarche at age 10 or earlier.”
[70] “Family stress, perception of pregnancy, and age of menarche among pregnant adolescents”, Ravert & Martin, Adolescence Summer 1997
“specifically, the role of family stress has been linked with pubertal timing and early female maturation (Belsky, Steinberg, & Draper, 1991; Wierson, Long, & Forehand, 1993)... adolescents may be particularly vulnerable to stressful events”
[71] “Allostasis and Allostatic Load: Implications for Neuropsychopharmacology”, McEwin, Neuropsychopharmacology (2000) 22 108-124.10.1038 /sj.npp.1395453
“The primary hormonal mediators of the stress response, glucocorticoids and catecholamines, have both protective and damaging effects on the body. In the short run, they are essential for adaptation, maintenance of homeostasis, and survival (allostasis). Yet, over longer time intervals, they exact a cost (allostatic load)...”
[72] Changing times: The evolution of puberty", Gluckman & Hanson, Molecular and Cellular Endocrinology Volumes 254-255, 25 July 2006, Pages 26-31
“An evolutionary and life history perspective is used to consider the evolution of puberty. The age of menarche would have evolved by the Neolithic to be matched to social maturity. It is suggested that in developed countries menarche is now returning to a similar age as in the Neolithic as infection and undernutrition, features of post-Neolithic society, have reduced impact. But recently the psychosocial expectations on adolescents in western societies have changed and social maturity now significantly follows menarche.”
[73] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
“The family’s need for this extra source of income required children to be accelerated into adulthood. This is different in modern society.”
[74] ”New research shows how evolution explains age of puberty”, From the University of Southampton
“They found that Paleolithic girls arrived at menarche - the first occurrence of menstruation - between seven and 13 years. This is a similar age to modern girls...'This would have matched the degree of psychosocial maturation necessary to function as an adult in Paleolithic society based on small groups of hunter-gatherers,' they write...However, today there is a mismatch between sexual maturity and psychosocial maturity, with sexual maturity occurring much earlier. This mismatch is a result of society becoming vastly more complex, with psychosocial maturity therefore taking longer to reach.
'For the first time in our 200,000 year history as a species, humans become sexually mature before becoming psychologically equipped to function as adults in society,' explains Professor Hanson.
'All our social systems work on the presumption that the two types of maturity coincide. But this is no longer the case and never will be again because we cannot change biological reality. We have to work out a new set of structures - schooling, for example - to deal with this reality.' “
[75] “Evolution, development and timing of puberty.” Hanson, Gluckman Trends in Endocrinology & ****bolism, Volume 17, Issue 1, January 2006, Pages 7-12
“The age of menarche has fallen as child health has improved...In the past few decades, as puberty has advanced, biological maturation has come to precede psychosocial maturation significantly for the first time in our evolutionary history. Although this developmental mismatch has considerable societal implications, care has to be taken not to medicalize contemporary early puberty inappropriately.”
[76] When Little Girls Become Women: Early Onset of Puberty in Girls
“But the implications for parents, teachers, and others who work with children are equally important: many young girls in early elementary school are developing breasts and pubic hair at a time when they are still playing with dolls and Junior Monopoly, and are too young to understand the emotional mood swings and other symptoms of adolescence.”
[77] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Benjamin_Franklin
“Benjamin Franklin (January 17 [O.S. January 6] 1706 – April 17, 1790) was one of the most important and influential Founding Fathers of the United States of America.”
[78] Benjamin Franklin On An Early Marriage, The Pennsylvania Packet, October 30, 1789
" The tempers and habits of the young are not yet become so stiff and uncomplying as when more advanced in life; they form more easily to each other, and hence many occasions of disgust are removed. And if youth has less of that prudence which is necessary to manage a family, yet the parents and elder friends of young married persons are generally at hand, to afford their advice, which amply supplies that defect; and by early marriage youth is sooner formed to regular and useful life...when nature has rendered our bodies fit for it, the presumption is in nature's favor, that she has not judged amiss in making us desire it...By these early marriages, we are blessed with more children, and from the mode among us, founded by nature, of every mother suckling and nursing her own child, more of them are raised. Thence the swift progress of population among us, unparalleled in Europe. In fine, I am glad you are married, and congratulate you most cordially upon it. You are now in the way of becoming a useful citizen, and you have escaped the unnatural state of celibacy for life, the fate of many here, who never intended it, but who, having too long postponed the change of their condition, find at length that it is too late to think of it; and so live all their lives in a situation that greatly lessens a man's value"
[79] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
“Today’s more industrial economic structure requires children to stay in ‘childhood’ longer.”
[80] “sexual behaviour, human” Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“The old family pattern was inexorably disrupted by the rise of the industrial state. Children were no longer kept at home to share in the work and be economic assets but left for school or for nonfamily employment, and the degree of parental control diminished.”
[81] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
" Children received discipline and learned values within a family environment. The role of family in a child's experience has dramatically diminished since the 17th century. Traditional family roles have changed and as a result, children spend larger periods of time in school... As mentioned in the US census, in 1995 alone, around 45% of children were enrolled in some version of daycare. With so much of a child's education entrusted to strangers who do not know the family well, it has become more difficult to control, or even to know, what values children are picking up. In addition, children have a greater peer influence as they are with peers constantly. Thus, the changing times have altered the traditional child rearing roles and changed the values instilled in contemporary children."
[82] The Cradle and the Gap
“From ancient times through the early centuries of this country's history, early puberty has been considered the proper time to go to school. Now, however, educators and psychologists have brainwashed the public into thinking that public schools can outparent families. The state has taken over education and removed children from the home at too young an age. This practice has led to: (1) a poorer education, as shown by the decline in literacy since the beginning of public education; (2) the creation of a generation gap, as a result of keeping children in institutions and away from parents; and (3) peer dependency and poor self-worth attitudes, because children spend more time with peers than with parents. Research and example have proved the theses that the home is the best educational nest, that parents are the best educators, and that parents are educable. Educational factors that make home schooling successful include the importance of the singular adult example undiluted by too many peers, the need to explore widely without the inhibitions of the classroom, the need for many quality personal adult-to-child responses, and the availability of books in public libraries. The best age for school entrance is in the range of 8-12 years old, as determined by early childhood studies on socialization and readiness for learning.”
[83] “sexual behaviour, human” Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“The old family pattern was inexorably disrupted by the rise of the industrial state. Children were no longer kept at home to share in the work and be economic assets but left for school or for nonfamily employment...”
[84] "Industrial Revolution." Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“The main features involved in the Industrial Revolution were technological, socioeconomic, and cultural. The technological changes included the following: (1) the use of new basic materials, chiefly iron and steel, (2) the use of new energy sources, including both fuels and motive power, such as coal, the steam engine, electricity, petroleum, and the internal-combustion engine, (3) the invention of new machines, such as the spinning jenny and the power loom that permitted increased production with a smaller expenditure of human energy, (4) a new organization of work known as the factory system, which entailed increased division of labour and specialization of function, (5) important developments in transportation and communication, including the steam locomotive, steamship, automobile, airplane, telegraph, and radio, and (6) the increasing application of science to industry. These technological changes made possible a tremendously increased use of natural resources and the mass production of manufactured goods....There were also many new developments in nonindustrial spheres, including the following: (1) agricultural improvements that made possible the provision of food for a larger nonagricultural population, (2) economic changes that resulted in a wider distribution of wealth...(4) sweeping social changes, including the growth of cities, the development of working-class movements, and the emergence of new patterns of authority...Finally, there was a psychological change: man's confidence in his ability to use resources and to master nature was heightened.”
[85] William Faulkner, a twentieth- century American novelist once wrote, “The past is not dead, Sep 2004
“Children must also remain children longer in order to complete their education.”
[86] “Psychological neoteny and higher education: Associations with delayed parenthood”, Charlton, Medical Hypotheses, Volume 69, Issue 2, Pages 237-240 (2007)
“Marriage and parenthood are indicative of making a choice to ‘settle down’ and thereby move on from the more flexible lifestyle of youth; and furthermore these are usually commitments which themselves induce a settling down and maturation of attitudes and behaviors...Parenthood is associated with a broad range of psychologically ‘maturing’ and socially-integrating effects in both men and women...The conclusion is that psychological neoteny is indeed increasing, and mainly as a consequence of the increasing percentage of school leavers going into higher education.”
[87] “Child Sexual Abuse I: An Overview”, Advocates for Youth
“The American Medical Association defines child sexual abuse as "the engagement of a child in sexual activities for which the child is developmentally unprepared and cannot give informed consented. Child sexual abuse is characterized by deception, force or coercion.”
[88] "pedophile", The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language: Fourth Edition. 2000.
"An adult who is sexually attracted to a child or children."
[89] American Psychiatric Association (2000). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (4th edition **** revision), § 302.2 : DSM-IV-TR: Pedophilia
“Pedophilia: Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children”
[90] "child", The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language: Fourth Edition. 2000.
"A person between birth and puberty.
ETYMOLOGY: Middle English, from Old English cild."
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أما والله ما جعل الله ما جعل الله لرجل من قلبين في جوفه ، ولكنك يا قلبُ تفتأ تجعل لي
من كل معنى من معاني الحزن في هذا الوجود قلباً ينبض به ، حتى لو قد قيل
ما مثلك في القلوب ، لقلتَ: "قلب سوريّة" ..
سورية ... آه يا سورية !
_______________________________
( الحكم بغير ما أنزل الله من أعظم أسباب تغيير الدول، كما جرى مثل هذا مرة بعد مرة
في زماننا وغير زماننا ) - شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله - الفتاوى 35/387
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ثالثا : مخاطر الإنجاب المبكر تاريخيا :
ثالثة دعاواهم قولهم : (( لقد سمح الإسلام بالإنجاب المبكر لدى سن البلوغ في العصور قبل الحديثة ، مما كان خطرا على الأمهات الصغيرات ))
لقد استشهدت هذه الدعوى بدراسة لـ ( صندوق الأمم المتحدة للسكان UNFPA ) لكنها أخفت أن الدراسة تناولت دولتين فقيرتين معاصرتين ، وأنه " كان من الممكن تجنب كل حالات الوفايات تلك تقريبا " وبكل بساطة عن طريق توفير وسائل النقل للمستشفيات [91] .
وتنص ( المجلة الدولية لعلم الأوبئة The International Journal of Epidemiology ) على أن " جميع الدراسات إنما تورط الفقر ، وليس الأم ، في أنه يشكل التهديد الحقيقي لصحة الأم وطفلها " [92] .
وفي الأزمنة قبل الحديثة ، كانت مخاطر الإنجاب الحقيقية نابعة من نقص المعرفة الطبية ، و عدم النظافة الشخصية ، وقد أثر ذلك على جميع النساء بغض النظر عن أعمارهن [93] .
في الحقيقة ، لقد كان الإنجاب المبكر سمة للتفوق الوراثي لسببين :
الأول : أن النساء اللائي يبلغن مبكرا يُنجبن أطفالا أسرع نموا وأثقل وزنا [94] .
الثاني : ما تنص عليه ( نظرية تاريخ الحياة ) من أن " الانتخاب الطبيعي سيكون في صالح الأفراد الذين يتناسلون مبكرا عن باقي الأفراد في المجتمع السكاني " [95] [96] .
فالنتيجة إذا أن الإنجاب المبكر لم بكن ضارا على الإطلاق ، بل كان منفعة لحديثي الولادة ومنفعة وراثية .
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[91] Americans for UNFPA, Women’s Health
“Almost all of these deaths are preventable. UNFPA trains skilled birth attendants and establishes reliable transportation to medical facilities--the most effective ways to reduce maternal mortality in remote areas.”
UNFPA and UNIFEM Joint Proposal for a Planning Grant “Improving Social and Economic Opportunities for Adolescent Girls in Ethiopia and Bangladesh”
“in Ethiopia and Bangladesh...girls aged 10 to 14 are five times more likely to die in pregnancy or childbirth than women aged 20 to 24”
[92] “Teen pregnancy is not a public health crisis in the United States. It is time we made it one”, Janet Rich-Edwards, International Journal of Epidemiology, 2002;31:555-556
“Indeed, it is testimony to the increasing strength of epidemiological methods that maternal age can be stripped from its tight association with economic and social risks, yielding the conclusion that teen pregnancy (at least for the 98% of teen pregnancies that occur after age 14 in the US) poses little, if any, inherent biological risk in the developed world. Such studies implicate poverty, not maternal age, as the real threat to maternal and infant welfare.”
[93] “Commentary: The pitfalls of policy history. Writing the past to change the present”, S Ryan Johansson, International Journal of Epidemiology, 2005 34(3): 526-529
"...most people were too poor, and therefore too poorly nourished, to resist the relentless onslaughts of disease, particularly infectious disease. In 18th century Western Europe, agricultural development increased the food supply and let ordinary people buy more and better food. Better nutrition increased their resistance to infectious disease, and reduced death rates, all without the assistance of medical care. It took another century (i.e. 1870) before public health and the decline of fertility made a complementary but still minor contribution to the continuing, nutrition-driven decline of mortality. Thus, if the goal of contemporary health policy is to further reduce mortality, society should invest its resources in the reduction of malnutrition, and more broadly, the eradication of poverty, not more and more sophisticated forms of medical care.”
[94] “Mother's early puberty boosts child's obesity risk”, 24 April 2007, NewScientist.com, Roxanne Khamsi
“a combination of genetic and behavioural factors explains why women who undergo puberty early appear to have children who grow faster and weigh more. Mothers may pass on genes that cause swift development, he explains. By the same token, they may pass on eating habits that prime the body for early maturation.”
[95] “population ecology” Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“Of the many differences in life history that occur among populations, age at the time of first reproduction is one of the most important for understanding the dynamics and evolution of a population. All else being equal, natural selection will favour individuals that reproduce earlier than other individuals within a population, because by reproducing earlier an individual's genes enter the gene pool sooner than those of other individuals that were born at the same time but have not reproduced. The genes of the early reproducers then begin to spread throughout the population. Individuals whose genetic makeup allows them to reproduce earlier in life will come to dominate a population if there is no counterbalancing advantage to those individuals that delay reproduction until later in life.”
[96] “population ecology” Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“populations in which individuals reproduce at an early age have the potential to grow much faster than populations in which individuals reproduce later.”
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رابعا : الزواج المبكر في العصور الحديثة :
ورابعة دعاواهم قولهم : (( يسمح الإسلام بالزواج في العصور الحديثة [ عصرنا هذا ] مما يسبب الضرر النفسي والجنسي ))
فبداية القول أن ذلك خطأ ، فليس صحيحا أن سن القبول والموافقة في الإسلام في العصر الحديث أقل مما هو عليه في القوانين الأخرى ، فمثلا ، الولايات المتحدة الأميريكية وبلدان أخرى تسمح تماما بالزواج لمن هم دون سن الـ 16 مع الحمل أيضا ، وذلك بموافقة الأبوين أو موافقة المحكمة [97] .
وعلى النقيض من ذلك ، ففي 17 دولة إسلامية يتراوح سن القبول الأدنى لديها ما بين 15 و 18 عاما مع ضرورة الموافقة الأبوية [98] [99] [100] [101] [102] [103] [104] [105] [106] [107] [108] [109] [110] [111] [112] [113] [114] و هو تطبيق مستمد بصفة أساسيا من التشريع الإسلامي [115] [116] .
وفي الحقيقة ، وبسبب تأخر سن النضج في واقعنا المعاصر ، فإن الزواج في سن البلوغ اليوم من شأنه أن ينتهك ست قواعد أساسية في الإسلام هي :
1) الرشد ، أو النضج النفسي أو ( الحكم المتعقل ) ، وهو مطلوب قبل الزواج [117] [118] .
2) لا ضرر ولا ضرار [119] [120] [121] [122] .
3) مراعاة مصالح الناس العليا [123] .
4) { لاَ تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلاَّ وُسْعَهَا } [124] [125] [126] [127]
[128] .
5) "المُسْتَشارُ مُؤْتَمَنٌ " [129] [130] [131] .
6) { وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ } [132] [133] [134] .
ثانيا : ليس صحيحا أن التشريح الإسلامي للزواج يؤدي إلى مزيد من الضرر مقارنة بالقوانين ولتشريعات الأخرى ، فالحقيقة أن التشريع الإسلامي يمهد الطريق لكل علاقة جنسية و لنسلها المحتمل للحصول على منافعها من الإخلاص المتبادل ، والدعم العاطفي ، والالتزام [135] ، والثقة المتبادلة ، والدعم المجتمعي الواسع [136] .
بالإضافة إلى ذلك ، ومع متسط عمر قليل نسبيا للزواج ، فإن الدول الإسلامية تستفيد من عقلية الزواج المبكر ، والتي ثبت أنها تؤدي إلى النضج النفسي في سن مبكرة نسبيا [137] .
وعلى الجانب الآخر ، فإن الدول غير الإسلامية تسمح وتتغاضى عن الأنشطة الجنسية التي تُرتكب قبل سنوات من النضج النفسي وبلوغ السن القانونية للزواج [138] مما يسبب أذى جنسيا مدمرا للمراهقين ، كما تنص عليه حاليا الإحصاءات الأميريكية التالية :
> 50% من مرتكبي الاعتداءات الجنسية على الأطفال هم من المراهقين أنفسهم [139] ممن يرتكبون الاعتداءات الجنسية ، ويستغلون الأطفال في المواد الإباحية والدعارة والبغاء ، وحتى زنا المحارم [140] إما بالخداع أو بالقوة والإكراه [141] .
> 35% ممن بلغ السابعة عشرة من العمر تعرضوا لاعتداءات جنسية [142] [143] .
> 12% ممن بلغ الرابعة عشرة من العمر مارسوا الجنس "كرها" [144] .
> نصف الإصابات الجديدة بفيروس الإيدز HIV تقع بين المراهقين [145] [146] .
> 70% ممن بلغوا الثالثة عشرة و مارسوا الجنس قالوا إن ذلك كان "رغما عن إرادتهم" [147].
> 7% ممن بلغوا الثانية عشرة مارسوا الجنس [148] [149] .
> 90 % من العاهرات كن ضحايا لاعتداء جنسي عليهن في طفولتهن [150] [151] [152] .
> متوسط عمر الفتيات اللائي يقعن ضحايا البغاء والدعارة لأول مرة من 12 إلى 14 عاما [153].
> 3 إلى 8 محاولات انتحار محتملة يقوم بها المراهقون الناشطون جنسيا [154] [155] .
> 76 % من المراهقات ممن يصبحن أمهات دون إعداد ينتهي بهن المطاف في دور الرعاية الاجتماعية [156] .
> في أغنى بلدان العالم ، هناك 1.25 مليون حالة حمل بين المرهقات ، و 500.000 حالة إجهاض سنويا [157] .
> البلدان التي تختار تحليل و تقنين البغاء ، مثل ألمانيا وهولندا والسويد والدنمارك ، ينتهي بها الأمر إلى زيادة في معدلات بغاء الأطفال والاتجار بالجنس [158] [159] [160] [161] ، واستغلال الأطفال في المواد الإباحية [162] [163] ، وزنا المحارم [164] [165] ، وحتى البهيمية المشروعة ( ممارسة الجنس مع الحيوانات ) [166] [167] [168] [169] .
وفي العصر الحديث ، انخفض سن البلوغ [170] [171] دون سن النضج النفسي [172] [173] [174] وانحدرت وتدهورت القيم الجنسية بشكل كبير [175] وساهمت عقلية تأخير الزواج في تأخير النضج الجنسي إلى حد أبعد [176] ، وستستمر هذه الاتجاهات الثلاثة في زيادة الضرر الجنسي المدمر على المراهقين في الدول غير الإسلامية .
وبينما تُستغل حالات نادرة للغاية للزواج في سن البلوغ في الريف الأفغاني للهجوم على كل المسلمين ، فلا بد من الإشارة إلى أنه حتى في الدول الإسلامية التي لم تقم رسميا برفع السن الدنيا للموافقة والقبول لديها ، فإنها قد فعلت ذلك في واقعها العملي ، وإلا فقد كان متوقعا من منتقدي الإسلام أن ينشروا ما هو أكثر من مجرد بضع حالات في بعض القرى والمخيمات المعزولة .
لكن الأهم من ذلك فعلا هو أن هذه البلدان الإسلامية تخلو من أي من تلك الفظائع الجنسية التي وُثّقت وتوثّق وبنسب ارتفاع مرعبة في البلدن نفسها التي تهاجم الإسلام .
فالنتيجة إذا أن التشريع الإسلامي المرن للزواج يوفر حماية أكبر بكثير من القوانين الأخرى المعاصرة من خلال منعه للأنشطة الجنسية قبل النضوج النفسي ثم الزواج .
الخلاصـــــة :
الخلاصة إذا أن الإسلام - وبكل مسئولية - يهذب الغرائز الجنسية ويوجهها التوجية السليم من خلال الزواج بأسبقية النضج النفسي .
وعلى النقيض من الادعاءات بتحسين المباديء الأخلاقية ، فإن القوانين والتشريعات غير الإسلامية قد أدت - وبصورة مفزعة - بالاعتداء الجنسي على الأطفال إضافة إلى الضرر النفسي الواقع عليهم إلى الارتفاع بنسب وبائية .
ولذلك ، فإن تلك الهجمات على الإسلام حين يتم تحليلها تحليلا محايدا ونزيها ، فإنها إنما تكشف جليا عن كمال التطبيق ومثالية الحل الإسلامي من القرن السابع وحتى اليوم ، كما تكشف أيضا عن الإخفاق التام والفشل الذريع من أي نظام آخر لتقديم أية حماية من أي نوع لشباب المجتمع.
وفي أحسن الأحوال ، فإن هذه الهجمات وُجدت سطحية وغير مسئولة نظرا لخطورة هذه المسألة .
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[97] Marriage Laws of the Fifty States, District of Columbia and Puerto Rico, Cornell Law School
[98] ”Algeria”: Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 18 with parental consent
[99] ”Bahrain”, National Laws, Legislation of INTERPOL member states on sexual offences against children, 2008
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 15 with parental consent, or 21
[100] ”Bangladesh”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 18 (with exceptions)
[101] ”Egypt”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 16 with parental consent
[102] ”Iraq”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 15 with parental consent, or 18
[103] ”Jordan”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 15 with parental consent, or 18
[104] “Kuwait”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 15 with parental consent, puberty and maturity (with exceptions)
[105] “Libya”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 20 (exceptions with parental and court permission and benefit to parties)
[106] “Malaysia”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 16 with parental consent (exceptions with court permission)
[107] “Morocco”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 15 with parental consent
[108] “Pakistan”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 16
[109] “Palestine”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 15 with parental consent
[110] “Somalia”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 16 with parental consent, or 18
[111] “Syria”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 17 with parental consent
[112] “Tunisia”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 17 (exceptions with parental and court permission and benefit to parties)
[113] “Yemen”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law: 15 with parental consent
[114] “UAE”, Islamic Family Law – Legal Profiles, Emory Law School, 2002
State Religion: Islam, Sharia Marital Law
“Age makes all the difference”, Bassma Al Jandaly, Gulf News, November 02, 2007
“Dubai: You can get married in the UAE if you are 18 years old, but if you are less than the legal age, a judge will have to decide whether you are competent enough to wed. If you are 18 years of age and older but your guardians are stopping the marriage, you can approach a court judge to sort out the issue.”
"Getting Married in Abu Dhabi", Abu Dhabi Tourism Authority
“Islam is the official state religion and the Sharia Court in Abu Dhabi performs marriage, regardless of applicants’ nationalities, according to Islamic law...Regardless of a woman’s age the Sharia Court would always require her guardian’s approval for the marriage.”
[115] “Islam: Governing Under Sharia”, Sharon Otterman , Council on Foreign Relations
“Most Middle Eastern countries continue to incorporate some traditional sharia into their legal codes, especially in the area of personal-status law, which governs marriage, divorce, and inheritance.”
[116] “Age makes all the difference”, Bassma Al Jandaly, Gulf News, November 02, 2007
“Dubai: You can get married in the UAE if you are 18 years old, but if you are less than the legal age, a judge will have to decide whether you are competent enough to wed.”
"Getting Married in Abu Dhabi", Abu Dhabi Tourism Authority
“Islam is the official state religion and the Sharia Court in Abu Dhabi performs marriage, regardless of applicants’ nationalities, according to Islamic law.”
[117] “Shari'ah”, Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008
“A legal capacity to transact belongs to any person “of prudent judgment” (rashid), a quality that is normally deemed to arrive with physical maturity or puberty...Persons who are not rashid, on account of minority, mental deficiency, simplicity, or prodigality, are placed under interdiction: their affairs are managed by a guardian and they cannot transact effectively without the guardian's consent.”
[118] {وَابْتَلُواْ الْيَتَامَى حَتَّىَ إِذَا بَلَغُواْ النِّكَاحَ فَإِنْ آنَسْتُم مِّنْهُمْ رُشْداً فَادْفَعُواْ إِلَيْهِمْ أَمْوَالَهُمْ...} {Test the orphans, so that if they have reached the age of procreation, and if (you) discerned from them sound judgement then deliver to them their fortune} Quran: Al Nisaa (The Women) 4:6, p. 77
The responsibility of another person or children is far more important to test than the responsibility of money alone. Furthermore, this is the only verse in the Quran using the term “Balaghu Alnikah“ (age of procreation) for puberty, and it is to mention the condition of sound judgement before gaining the responsibilities normally associated with puberty. (Muhaddith MR)
[119] “al Mustadrak”, al Hakim, vol. 2
“...an authentic hadeeth by Imaam Muslim’s criteria: Citing Abu Sa’eed al Khudri that the Prophet PBUH said:
‘No harm (is allowed), nor harming back. Whoever harms, Allah Will Harm him, and whoever makes things difficult (for others), Allah Will Make things difficult for him’.”
المستدرك على الصحيحين، للإمام محمد بن عبد الله الحاكم النيسابوري. المجلد الثاني
... عن أبي سعيد الخدري - رضي الله تعالى عنه: أن رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - قال: (لا ضرر ولا ضرار، من ضار ضاره الله، ومن شاق شاق الله عليه). هذا حديث صحيح الإسناد على شرط مسلم، ولم يخرجاه.
[120] Imaam Ahmad, Abu Dawood, Tirmizhi, Nasaa’i, Ibn Maajah, and Al Tabaraani (citing Abi Sirmah), and Al Hakim (citing Abu Sa’eed Al Khudri):
“Whoever harms, Allah Will Harm him, and whoever makes things difficult (for others), Allah Will Make things difficult for him.”
روى أحمد في مسنده وأبو داود، والترمذي، والنسائي، وابن ماجه، والطبراني في الكبير عن أبي صرمة
من ضار ضار الله به، ومن شاق شاق الله عليه
[121] Hadith Hasan (authenticated): Malik, Suyuti, Ahmed, Shafii; and Imam Munawi in “Faydh al Qadir, Sharh al Jame al Saghir” vol 6, hadith #9899
“Allah’s Messenger said: ‘No harm (is allowed), nor harming back.’ “
الإمامِ المناوي, فيض القدير، شرح الجامع الصغير، الجزء السادس. حديث رقم: 9899
لا ضرر ولا ضرار
[122] "The Language of God", Francis Collins, pp 243-244
"four ethical principles undergird much of bioethics, and are common to virtually all cultures and societies: 1-Respect for autonomy...2- Justice...3- Benefience-The mandate to treat others in their best interests 4- Nonmaleficence-"First do no harm" (as in the Hypocrstic oath)...A religious person will see these as principles clearly laid out in sacred ****s of the Judeo-Christian, Islamic, Buddhist, and other religious traditions..."
[123] "The Language of God", Francis Collins, pp 243-244
"four ethical principles undergird much of bioethics, and are common to virtually all cultures and societies: 1-Respect for autonomy...2- Justice...3- Benefience-The mandate to treat others in their best interests 4- Nonmaleficence-"First do no harm" (as in the Hypocrstic oath)...A religious person will see these as principles clearly laid out in sacred ****s of the Judeo-Christian, Islamic, Buddhist, and other religious traditions..."
[124] Tafsir al Qurtubi, Explanation of the Quran: Al Tawbah (The Repentance) 9:91
“His saying: {Not on the weak nor on the sick nor on those who find nothing to spend is any blame (haraj, or fault) if they are true to Allah and His messenger...} is a foundation that obligations are waived from upon the infirm, thus any person who is not capable of something, then it is waived for him; sometimes to a replacement which is an (other) action, and sometimes to a financial assignment, and there is no difference between incapability regarding the body or the wealth.
And similar to this aayah is His saying: {Allah does not burden a soul except according to its capability} (Baqarah, 286)
And His saying: {There is no blame on the blind, nor is there blame on the lame, nor is there blame on the sick.} (Al Nur, 61)”
سورة التوبة 9:91 تفسير القرتبي
قوله تعالى: {ليس على الضعفاء ولا على المرضى ولا على الذين لا يجدون ما ينفقون حرج إذا نصحوا لله ورسوله ما على المحسنين من سبيل والله غفور رحيم} .
أصل في سقوط التكليف عن العاجز فكل من عجز عن شيء سقط عنه، فتارة إلى بدل هو فعل، وتارة إلى بدل هو غرم، ولا فرق بين العجز من جهة القوة أو العجز من جهة المال ونظير هذه الآية قوله تعالى: {لا يكلف الله نفسا إلا وسعها" [البقرة: 286]
وقوله: {ليس على الأعمى حرج ولا على الأعرج حرج ولا على المريض حرج" [النور: 61].
[125] Quran: Al Hajj (The Pilgrimage) 22:78
“...He has chosen you and has not placed upon you in religion any hardship (haraj)...”
سورة الحج 22:78 القرآن الكريم
هُوَ اجْتَبَاكُمْ وَمَا جَعَلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ مِنْ حَرَجٍ
[126] Tafsir al Qurtubi, Explanation of the Quran: Al Nur (The Light) 24:61
{Not on the blind is blame (haraj, or fault), nor on the blind is blame (haraj), nor on the sick is blame (haraj), nor on yourselves to eat from your houses...(or from houses of various relatives)...}
“But the selection (by Qurtubi) is to say: ‘That Allah has lifted the burden from upon the blind, concerning obligations that necessitate eyesight, and from upon the limping (lame) concerning action that require walking in order to become obligatory as well as actions that become impossible due to limping, and from upon the sick, whatever is waived by disease such as fasting, the conditions and details of prayer and jihad and similar (duties).’ Then He (Allah) said, providing details: ‘And there is no blame upon you to eat from your houses.’
So this is a correct meaning, and a clear and beneficial explanation, supported by Islamic law (sharia) and reason, and does not require ****ual sources in (this) explanation of the Aayah.
I say (al Qurtubi): And this is what Ibn Atiyyah indicated; he said: ‘So the outward meaning of this Aayah, and the commandment of Sharia, indicate that blame is lifted from upon them concerning anything that they have an excuse against’.”
سورة النور 24:61 تفسير القرتبي
{ لَيْسَ عَلَى الْأَعْمَى حَرَجٌ وَلَا عَلَى الْأَعْرَجِ حَرَجٌ وَلَا عَلَى الْمَرِيضِ حَرَجٌ وَلَا عَلَى أَنفُسِكُمْ أَن تَأْكُلُوا مِن بُيُوتِكُمْ أَو...}
لكن المختار أن يقال: إن الله رفع الحرج عن الأعمى فيما يتعلق بالتكليف الذي يشترط فيه البصر، وعن الأعرج فيما يشترط في التكليف به من المشي وما يتعذر من الأفعال مع وجود العرج، وعن المريض فيما يؤثر المرض في إسقاطه كالصوم وشروط الصلاة وأركانها، والجهاد ونحو ذلك. ثم قال بعد ذلك مبينا: وليس عليكم حرج في أن تأكلوا من بيوتكم. فهذا معنى صحيح، وتفسير بين مفيد، ويعضده الشرع والعقل، ولا يحتاج في تفسير الآية إلى نقل.
قلت: وإلى هذا أشار ابن عطية فقال: فظاهر الآية وأمر الشريعة يدل على أن الحرج عنهم مرفوع في كل ما يضطرهم إليه العذر، وتقتضي نيتهم فيه الإتيان بالأكمل، ويقتضي العذر أن يقع منهم الأنقص، فالحرج مرفوع عنهم في هذا.
[127] Quran: Al Maedah (The Repast) 5:6
“O you who believe, if you rise for prayer, wash your faces and hands to the elbows, and wipe your heads, and (wash) your feet to the two ankles. And if you are unclean then purify (yourselves). And if you are sick, or on a journey, or one of you comes from the lavatory, or have had contact with women, and then you find no water, then take clean earth (sand,dust), and wipe your faces and hands with it. Allah does not want to place on you of hardships (haraj), rather, He wants you (to be) purified and perfect His grace upon you, that you may be grateful”
سورة المائدة 5:6 القرآن الكريم
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ إِذَا قُمْتُمْ إِلَى الصَّلاةِ فاغْسِلُواْ وُجُوهَكُمْ وَأَيْدِيَكُمْ إِلَى الْمَرَافِقِ وَامْسَحُواْ بِرُؤُوسِكُمْ وَأَرْجُلَكُمْ إِلَى الْكَعْبَينِ وَإِن كُنتُمْ جُنُباً فَاطَّهَّرُواْ وَإِن كُنتُم مَّرْضَى أَوْ عَلَى سَفَرٍ أَوْ جَاء أَحَدٌ مَّنكُم مِّنَ الْغَائِطِ أَوْ لاَمَسْتُمُ النِّسَاء فَلَمْ تَجِدُواْ مَاء فَتَيَمَّمُواْ صَعِيداً طَيِّباً فَامْسَحُواْ بِوُجُوهِكُمْ وَأَيْدِيكُم مِّنْهُ مَا يُرِيدُ اللّهُ لِيَجْعَلَ عَلَيْكُم مِّنْ حَرَجٍ وَلَـكِن يُرِيدُ لِيُطَهَّرَكُمْ وَلِيُتِمَّ نِعْمَتَهُ عَلَيْكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ
[128] Quran: Al Anam (The Cattle) 6:152, Al Araf (The Heights) 7:42, Al Muminum (The Believers) 23:62
“We do not charge a soul except what it can bear”
لَا نُكَلِّفُ نَفْساً إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا
Quran: Al Baqara (The Cow) 2:226
“Allah does not charge a soul except what it can bear”
لا يكلف الله نفسا إلا وسعها
Quran: Al Baqara (The Cow) 2:286
“A soul is not charged except with what it can bear”
لاَ تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلاَّ وُسْعَهَا
[129] “Al Athkaru al Nawawiyya”, Imam Nawawi, hadith # 2/850
“...Abu Hurayra said:
‘Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) said: ‘The person asked for advice is entrusted’.’ “
Muslim, abu Dawud, Nasaii, Tirmithi, Nasaii, ibn Maja, and it is an authenticated saying (hadith hasan)
الأذْكَارُ النَّوَويَّة، للإِمام النَّوَوي, وجدت الكلمات في الحديث رقم: 2/850
وروينا في سنن أبي داود والترمذي والنسائي وابن ماجه، عن أبي هريرة رضي اللّه عنه قال: قال رسول اللّه صلى اللّه عليه وسلم: "المُسْتَشارُ مُؤْتَمَنٌ". (849) مسلم (55) ، وأبو داود (4944) ، والنسائي 7/156. (850) أبو داود (5128) ، والترمذي (2823) و (2824) ، والنسائي وابن ماجه (3745) و (3746) ، وهو حديث حسن.
[130] “Tihfet al Ahwathi: The Explanation of Sunan al Tirmizhi”, Mubarakpuri
(The person asked for advice is entrusted)
‘The person asked for advice’: Whoever asked his advice has requested his opinion about what contains benefit ‘is entrusted’: from ‘security’ or ‘trust, confidence’, its meaning is that the person asked for advice is entrusted concerning the matters being asked about, so he should not be treacherous (commit treason) to the person asking, by withholding what is of benefit to him.
كتاب تحفة الأحوذي، شرح جامع الترمذي، لمحمد بن عبد الرحمن المباركفوري
( إن المستشار) من استشاره طلب رأيه فيما فيه المصلحة (مؤتمن) اسم مفعول من الأمن أو الأمانة ومعناه أن المستشار أمين فيما يسأل من الأمور، فلا ينبغي أن يخون المستشير بكتمان مصلحته
[131] “Fayd al Qadir: The Explanation of Jame al Saghir”, Imam Munawi, Hadith # 9201
“ ‘The person asked for advice is entrusted’, that is, entrusted concerning the matters he is asked about, mentioned al Teebi, because he was given responsibility for the matter in which he was entrusted, so if he knows the benefit of the person who gave him responsibility of his own affair, he should not withhold it, for if he withholds it he will then be harming him but the Prophet PBUH said: ‘No harm (can be initiated), nor harm performed (in retaliation)’...”
الإمامِ المناوي, فيض القدير، شرح الجامع الصغير، الجزء السادس. حديث رقم: 9201
( المستشار مؤتمن) أي أمين فيما يسأل من الأمور ذكره الطيبي لأنه قلد الأمر الذي استشير فيه فإذا عرف المصلحة لمن قلده أمره فلا يكتمه فإن كتم ضره وقد قال عليه الصلاة والسلام لا ضرر ولا ضرار فيكون قد ترك الإحسان وغشه فيما استشاره فيه وخان وقوله (إن شاء أشار وإن شاء لم يشر)
[132] Tafseer Al Nasafi:
{command to what is Urf} (Quran: The Heights 7:199, p. 176)
“What is considered good and fine among actions, or every feature that reason confirms and that Islamic Law accepts.”
{ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ}
بالمعروف والجميل من الأفعال أو هو كل خصلة يرتضيها العقل ويقبلها الشرع
[133] Durr al Manthur, Al Suyuti
{command to what is Urf} (Quran: The Heights 7:199, p. 176)
“What is considered good.”
{ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ}
بالمعروف
[134] Baydawi (famous for linguistic eminence in tafseer):
{command to what is Urf} (Quran: The Heights 7:199, p. 176)
“What is considered good and recommended so among actions.”
{ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ}
المعروف المستحسن من الأفعال
[135] "What's Happening to Marriage?", Essay from State of Our Unions: The Social Health of Marriage in America, 1999
The Marriage Relationship...benefits such as sexual faithfulness, emotional support, mutual trust and lasting commitment.
[136] “The Household and the Making of History: a Subversive View of the Western Past”, Hartman, Mary S., Rutgers University, Cambridge University Press, 2004
"This book argues that a unique late marriage pattern, discovered in the 1960s but originating in the Middle Ages, explains the continuing puzzle of why western Europe was the site of changes that...when the peasants in northwestern Europe began to marry their daughters almost as late as their sons. The appearance of this late marriage system, with its unstable nuclear household form"
[137] “Psychological neoteny and higher education: Associations with delayed parenthood”, Charlton, Medical Hypotheses, Volume 69, Issue 2, Pages 237-240 (2007)
“Marriage and parenthood are indicative of making a choice to ‘settle down’ and thereby move on from the more flexible lifestyle of youth; and furthermore these are usually commitments which themselves induce a settling down and maturation of attitudes and behaviors...Parenthood is associated with a broad range of psychologically ‘maturing’ and socially-integrating effects in both men and women...The conclusion is that psychological neoteny is indeed increasing, and mainly as a consequence of the increasing percentage of school leavers going into higher education.”
[138] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Europe
[139] “Child Sexual Abuse I: An Overview”, Advocates for Youth
“In up to 50 percent of reported cases, offenders are adolescents.”
[140] “Child Sexual Abuse I: An Overview”, Advocates for Youth
“Child prostitution, pornography and cult (or "ritual") abuse are specific activities also included in the definition. Incest is sexual abuse where the offender is a family member.”
[141] “Child Sexual Abuse I: An Overview”, Advocates for Youth
“Child sexual abuse is characterized by deception, force or coercion”
[142] “Myths and Facts about Childhood Sexual Abuse”
“A national study in 1986 indicated that 35% of all children under age 18 had been sexually abused.”
[143] “Child Sexual Abuse I: An Overview”, Advocates for Youth
“The National Resource Council estimates the percent of the U.S. population which has been sexually abused to range from a low of 20-24 percent to a high of 54-62 percent of the population; the higher estimate includes sexualized exposure without touching, such as masturbating in front of the child. The largest retrospective study on the prevalence of child sexual abuse found 27 percent of women and 16 percent of men reported abuse.”
[144] “Troubled Teens Statistics - Teen Help for Troubled Teens”
“In the U.S.,...6 in 10 of those who had sex before age 15 report having had sex involuntarily.”
“Teenage Sex and Promiscuity”
“Twenty percent of all adolescents have had sex at least once before their fifteenth birthday.”
(Therefore 60% x 25% = 12% of all 14 year olds have had sex “involuntarily”)
[145] “Troubled Teens Statistics - Teen Help for Troubled Teens”
“Half of all new HIV infections occur among adolescents.”
[146] Preventing Teenagers from Getting Contraceptives Unless They Tell a Parent Puts Teens at Risk, ACLU 7/18/2003
“ Over half of all new HIV infections in the United States occur in adolescents.”
[147] “Troubled Teens Statistics - Teen Help for Troubled Teens”
“In the U.S., 7 in 10 women who had sex before age 14...report having had sex involuntarily.”
[148] “A LEAGUE TABLE OF TEENAGE BIRTHS IN RICH NATIONS”, Unicef, Innocenti Report Card, 2001
“But it is among younger teenagers that the kaleidoscope has been most vigorously shaken. According to some sources, for example, seven per cent of American children now have sex even before they have become teenagers.”
[149] “Troubled Teens Statistics - Teen Help for Troubled Teens”
“Nationwide, 6.2% of high school students had had sexual intercourse for the first time before age 13.”
[150] “In Whose Interest? Feminist Research on Prostitution”, Off Our Backs, July 1997
“Those who work with prostituted women have found that 90% of the population are incest and child sexual abuse survivors, oftentimes abused by many perpetrators (The Council for Prostitution Alternatives, WHISPER).”
[151] "Child Prostitution", US Department of Justice, Child Exploitation and Obscenity Section (CEOS)
“The majority of American victims of commercial sexual exploitation tend to be runaway or thrown away youth who live on the streets who become victims of prostitution...These children generally come from homes where they have been abused, or from families that have abandoned them”
[152] "Myths and Facts of Incest", Hill Country Children's Advocacy Center
"90% of young prostitutes were victims of sexual abuse."
[153] "Child Prostitution", US Department of Justice, Child Exploitation and Obscenity Section (CEOS)
“The average age at which girls first become victims of prostitution is 12-14”
[154] Sexually Active Teenagers Are More Likely to Be Depressed and to Attempt Suicide, Rector, Johnson, Noyes, June 3, 2003, Center for Data Analysis Report #03-04
"Thus, sexually active girls are more than three times more likely to be depressed than are girls who are not sex*ually active...Thus, sexually active teenage boys are eight times more likely to attempt sui*cide than are boys who are not sexu*ally active."
[155] "Does Abstinence Education Really Work?", Project Reality
“Sexually active girls are 3 times more likely to attempt suicide that abstinent teenage girls. Sexually active males are 8 times more likely to attempt suicide. Suicide rates have doubled to teens between 1960-2001.”
[156] Some Eye-opening Teen Pregnancy Facts, Parent Super Site
"95% of teen pregnancies are unplanned...80% of teen mothers end up on welfare."
(Therefore 95% x 80% = 76% of unplanned teen mothers end up on welfare)
[157] “A LEAGUE TABLE OF TEENAGE BIRTHS IN RICH NATIONS”, Unicef, Innocenti Report Card, 2001
"In the world’s rich nations...at least 1.25 million teenagers become pregnant each year...approximately half a million will seek an abortion and approximately three quarters of a million will become teenage mothers... Sex before marriage and the expectation of several sexual partners before beginning a stable relationship has now become the norm in most industrialized countries.”
[158] "Comments of CATW in preparation for the United States 2002 Trafficking in Persons (TIP) Report", Coalition Against Trafficking in Women
"Legalized or decriminalized prostitution industries are one of the root causes of sex trafficking. There is an fundamental connection between legal recognition of prostitution industries and the increase in “significant numbers of victims” who have been subjected to sex trafficking. Nowhere do we see this relationship more clearly than in countries advocating prostitution as an employment choice, or who foster the legalization of prostitution, or who support the decriminalization of the sex industry...Another argument for legalizing prostitution in the Netherlands was that it would help end child prostitution. In reality, however, child prostitution in the Netherlands has increased dramatically during the 1990s...The sheer volume of foreign women who are in the prostitution industry in Germany – by some NGO estimates now up to 85 per cent – casts further doubt on the fact that these numbers of women could have entered Germany without facilitation. As in the Netherlands, NGOs report that most of the foreign women have been trafficked into the country since it is almost impossible for poor women to facilitate their own migration, underwrite the costs of travel and travel documents, and set themselves up in business without outside help."
[159] ”Worst Forms of Child Labour Data: Germany”, Global March Against Child Labor
“Child Trafficking...NATIONAL STATISTICS...At least 200 women, including girls under the age of 16, were trafficked by one Polish man to Germany and the Netherlands between 1993 and 1996...Germany is a destination and transit country for trafficked women. Estimates vary considerably on the number of women and girls trafficked to and through the country, ranging between 2,000 and 20,000 per year....Most trafficking victims are women and girls between the ages of 16 and 25 who are forced to work as prostitutes....Germany, Israel, the Netherlands, Denmark, and Austria are major destinations for women trafficked from Lithuania, based on the figures of women subsequently deported from these countries to Lithuania....The German Federal Department of Criminal Investigation estimates that 5% of the women trafficked from Eastern Europe are younger than 18....Germany is one of the most popular destinations in Europe for women trafficked from Ukraine and Russia...Sweden is used as a transit country for trafficking Latin American women to brothels in Denmark, Germany and the Netherlands.”
[160] Child Prostitution in the Netherlands, Carin Tiggeloven, Radio Netherlands Worldwide, 18-12-2001
"The number of Dutch children working in prostitution has increased dramatically over the past five years: from 4,000 to 15,000 according to figures published by the Amsterdam-based ChildRight organization...recent years have seen a significant rise on the number of Dutch girls forced into the sex industry..."
[161] "Human Rights Reports of Europe and Central Asia: Germany", 2003, The Protection Project
“Germany is the top destination country for trafficking in women and children for prostitution...The sex trade in Germany, Europe’s largest economy, brought in US$7.5 billion in 2003, which makes Germany an attractive destination country for prostitution networks that traffic women and children.”
[162] " 'Tens of thousands' blocked from child porn", Nov 25 2005, The Local: Sweden’s News in English
"Every day 20,000 to 30,000 attempts by Swedes to enter child pornography sites are blocked, according to the latest figures from the police...Between 80% and 90% of child porn web sites are blocked by the filters...Nevertheless, the figures are "grotesque", said Ecpat's general secretary Helena Karlén...'It's significant and shocking that so many people in our country are interested in watching children being raped and in certain cases tortured,' she said to SvD."
[163] ”German Police Turn Up the Heat on Internet Sex Offenders”, 08-01-2007, DW-World.de Detche Welle
Thousands of suspected pedophiles and child-porn users in Germany...using the Internet to view and trade sex photos and videos...investigators said they found photos and videos of children in "violent and degrading situations."...Child pornography on the rise...Some 800 cases involving child pornography passed through the state's district attorney's office in Stuttgart in 2006. That number represents an increase from 690 cases in 2005 and 620 cases in 2004. The suspects come from all parts of society...Few cases of child pornography, however, are easy to prosecute, district attorney spokeswoman Bettina Vetter told the Stuttgarter Zeitung. Only one third of all child pornography cases are carried through to a court sentence while many cases are often abandoned for lack of evidence, she said.
[164] "German Government Publication Promotes Incestuous Pedophilia as Healthy Sex Ed", John-Henry Westen, July 30, 2007, LifeSiteNews.com
“Booklets from a subsidiary of the German government's Ministry for Family Affairs encourage parents to...Two 40-page booklets entitled "Love, Body and Playing Doctor" by the German Federal Health Education Center..."Fathers do not devote enough attention to the clitoris and vagina of their daughters. Their caresses too seldom pertain to these regions, while this is the only way the girls can develop a sense of pride in their sex," reads the booklet regarding 1-3 year olds. The authors rationalize, "The child touches all parts of their father's body, sometimes arousing him. The father should do the same."...For ages 4-6, the booklet recommends teaching children the movements of copulation...According to the Polish daily newspaper Rzeczpospolita, the BZgA booklet is an obligatory read in nine German regions. It is used for training nursery, kindergarten and elementary school teachers...Rzeczpospolita reports that the Eckhardt Scheffer of BZgA claimed that before releasing the manual the organization consulted parents, educators and child psychologists. 93% of whom gave a positive evaluation.“
[165] "A Research Note on Incest", Svend Riemer, The American Journal of Sociology, Vol. 45, No. 4 (Jan., 1940), pp. 566-575
"There is no doubt that incest, especially father-daughter incest, is very widespread within certain strata of Swedish society"
[166] "Europeans pay big for beastiality at barnyard brothels", Aftermath News, October 2, 2006
"Denmark’s animal bordellos reportedly draw Norwegian clients, but both countries have loopholes that make such establishments legal...Denmark’s animal bordellos have been advertising on the ‘Net and reportedly draw customers from as far away as Norway, Germany, Holland and Sweden who want to pay for sex with horses and other beasts... Mersereau said just because there’s been publicity about such facilities in Denmark who are “catering to those kinds of sickos,” that doesn’t mean those activities aren’t happening elsewhere."
[167] "Animal bordellos draw Norwegians", Aftenporten News from Norway, Sep 14 2006
"According to the 24timer report, Germans, Dutchmen, Swedes and Norwegians visit the Danish bordellos, and a web site devoted to bestiality claimed that many of Denmark's animal sex clients stem from Norway...A new dissertation from the Institute of Criminology at the University of Oslo showed that Norwegian veterinarians know of at least 124 cases of animal sex abuse in Norway. The thesis reports that 22 percent of Norwegian veterinarians suspect or are sure that they have treated animals that have been sexually abused by humans."
[168] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bestiality#Legal_status
Currently, the legality of bestiality varies greatly around the world. It is legal in some countries, such as Sweden, Denmark and the Netherlands...Countries such as Belgium, Germany and Russia are in between the two as they permit sexual activity with animals but strictly prohibit the promotion of animal-oriented pornography
[169] ”Bestiality on the Rise in Sexually Libertine Sweden”, LifeSiteNews.com, May 4, 2005
"Sweden, known the world over for its avant garde sexual mores has crossed yet another barrier in its moral descent with the news that sexual abuse of animals is on the increase. A government commissioned study has found that more than 200 animals, mostly horses, have been sexually abused in Sweden since the 1970s...Unlike most countries, bestiality is not illegal in Sweden. The legal prohibitions against both bestiality and homosexuality were lifted by the country in 1944....In an article published last year entitled "The End of Marriage in Scandinavia", author Stanley Kurtz reported "Sweden is probably the most secular country in the world. Secular social scientists (most of them quite radical) have largely replaced clerics as arbiters of public morality." The decline of general sexual morality, evident in Swedish society, seems to be manifesting itself in many disturbing ways, spiraling downward with increasing rapidity."
[170] “Falling Age at Puberty”, Population Reports, Volume XXIII, Number 3, October, 1995
“Boys and girls now experience puberty at younger ages than previous generations. In general, girls enter puberty between ages 8 and 13 and reach menarche (first menstruation) several years later, while boys enter puberty between ages 9 and 14 (436, 529). The reasons for earlier menarche in girls are not well understood. Most of the change is attributed to better health and nutrition (160, 185, 529). In North America age at menarche decreased by three to four months each decade after 1850”
[171] The invention of adolescence, V.R., Psychology Today, Jan/Feb 95
“Since the mid-1800s, puberty--the advent of sexual maturation and the starting point of adolescence--has inched back one year for every 25 years elapsed. It now occurs on average six years earlier than it did in 1850--age 11 or 12 for girls; age 12 or 13 for boys.”
[172] “Evolution, development and timing of puberty.” Hanson, Gluckman Trends in Endocrinology & ****bolism, Volume 17, Issue 1, January 2006, Pages 7-12
“The age of menarche has fallen as child health has improved...In the past few decades, as puberty has advanced, biological maturation has come to precede psychosocial maturation significantly for the first time in our evolutionary history. Although this developmental mismatch has considerable societal implications, care has to be taken not to medicalize contemporary early puberty inappropriately.”
[173] ”New research shows how evolution explains age of puberty”, From the University of Southampton
“They found that Paleolithic girls arrived at menarche - the first occurrence of menstruation - between seven and 13 years. This is a similar age to modern girls...'This would have matched the degree of psychosocial maturation necessary to function as an adult in Paleolithic society based on small groups of hunter-gatherers,' they write...However, today there is a mismatch between sexual maturity and psychosocial maturity, with sexual maturity occurring much earlier. This mismatch is a result of society becoming vastly more complex, with psychosocial maturity therefore taking longer to reach.
'For the first time in our 200,000 year history as a species, humans become sexually mature before becoming psychologically equipped to function as adults in society,' explains Professor Hanson.
'All our social systems work on the presumption that the two types of maturity coincide. But this is no longer the case and never will be again because we cannot change biological reality. We have to work out a new set of structures - schooling, for example - to deal with this reality.' “
[174] When Little Girls Become Women: Early Onset of Puberty in Girls
“But the implications for parents, teachers, and others who work with children are equally important: many young girls in early elementary school are developing breasts and pubic hair at a time when they are still playing with dolls and Junior Monopoly, and are too young to understand the emotional mood swings and other symptoms of adolescence.”
[175] “A LEAGUE TABLE OF TEENAGE BIRTHS IN RICH NATIONS”, Unicef, Innocenti Report Card, 2001
“In particular the weakening of traditional attitudes has combined with commercial pressures to create more sexualised societies in which old taboos serve mainly to add to the allure of the formerly forbidden. Increasingly, sexual imagery and content are permeating the information and entertainment environments within which today’s teenagers develop awareness, experiment with identity, and live out their aspirations towards adulthood. Unsurprisingly in such a con****, sexual activity among teenagers has increased (perhaps aided by a fall in the average age of puberty as a result of better health and nutrition).”
[176] “Psychological neoteny and higher education: Associations with delayed parenthood”, Charlton, Medical Hypotheses, Volume 69, Issue 2, Pages 237-240 (2007)
“Marriage and parenthood are indicative of making a choice to ‘settle down’ and thereby move on from the more flexible lifestyle of youth; and furthermore these are usually commitments which themselves induce a settling down and maturation of attitudes and behaviors...Parenthood is associated with a broad range of psychologically ‘maturing’ and socially-integrating effects in both men and women...The conclusion is that psychological neoteny is indeed increasing, and mainly as a consequence of the increasing percentage of school leavers going into higher education
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من كل معنى من معاني الحزن في هذا الوجود قلباً ينبض به ، حتى لو قد قيل
ما مثلك في القلوب ، لقلتَ: "قلب سوريّة" ..
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( الحكم بغير ما أنزل الله من أعظم أسباب تغيير الدول، كما جرى مثل هذا مرة بعد مرة
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